Have you ever had those moments of reflection when you realize everything defining happened in your life at exactly the moment it “should” have happened?
I really do subscribe to the idea that things happen when they’re meant to. That’s why I always had so much trouble with the aggressive idea of chasing after everything to “MAKE” them happen that a lot of people tend to adopt. Sometimes you can’t force things, sometimes you have to let go and let things come to you. It’s a balance between conscious assertiveness and spiritual passivity. It’s a dance, step forward, step back, shimmy. If you keep stepping forward you’re going to smash your dance partner into the wall.
I really think the method to life is knowing that things will happen when they do, but also distracting yourself enough so that you don’t get anxiety about when they will happen, or how.